Recently, a really popular opinion is that we are not responsible for the feelings of other people, on the one hand, yes, this is cool and there is truth in this, however, we should not forget that we are still responsible for the feeling we give to people; this means that when communicating with a person you know, you need to take into account his personality and the subtleties of his personality so that you don’t cause him harm and pain with your words, because really, anything you want to tell a person, even some unpleasant news and all that can be rephrased in such a form that the person feels just a little worse, i.e.
because the consequences of thoughtless words are underestimated and many people suffer for years because someone said something thoughtlessly to them
let's say "hey your hair color is so strange" This statement is perceived differently for both parties (the one who said it and to whom it was said). Let’s say that the person who said this by the word strange meant unusual, which he had never seen before (in a good sense), but that person got this word strange in his head and he will constantly think about his hair color and even possibly change the color because this person will already consider your own hair color strange and because of complex
And yes, even if you are the person who said something like that, don’t be afraid to explain what you meant by a similar word because thanks to this you will improve a person’s mood for the whole day and possibly for the whole life))